This house is mine, me too!

Maksuda Azeez

Nusrat is a development officer, working in an international organization. Her husband works in a bank This couple has two children aged five and two. Nusrat said, I and my husband are equal in social and financial assets. We respect each other as well. It never happens that my husband presses me for work at home or hears me. 'It is not that why it should be there' he did not even have the appetite. Sometimes he helped me in the home work. But there is no skill in this housekeeping work, but it does not have the skill. Above all, he works with me with a lot of enthusiasm, he has to face social disgrace for a long time to work from home even when he is a man.

Many workers or housewives who suffer from problems like Nusrat. As the joint family collapses, increasing the rate of work-life outside women and the job of the work-seeker in the house is almost a matter of tension in almost all the families. And it has taken all the responsibilities of women in the neck. In order to handle all aspects, women are eating Himasim and men are rolling out due to their own due to conventional rules.

Associate Professor of Women and Gender Studies, Dhaka University. Sanjida Akhtar said that in this twenty-first century, women are now self-reliant socially and economically. But the problem is that men are still dependent on the house. They have the support of their mother, sister, daughter, daughter or any other women as they do the work outside the house, to come home and pour water.

Avoiding this kind of work or avoiding the work is harmful for the marital relationship, said Dr. Sanjida

Suppose a family where the husband's wife came from two offices. After returning home, the wife went to work for the house and the husband sat for a play. She wants to share a very important moment in the game with the wife. Meanwhile, the wife is eating hersimme in the kitchen or in the house chores. Where is the time or the mentality to join husband? Thus, day after day they are going to a different world, where there is nothing other than duty to others - explained Dr. Sanjida

Recently, an Indian film named "Belathesh" came in quite a lot of discussion. In this movie, when the husband wants to be separated from his wife in the last life, he says that the wife was never with her side. When the wife also speaks herself, it is understood that loneliness was not alone in her husband's allegation. Nowhere else in the wife, the family has done the responsibility of the father-in-law, alone, where the husband had no role. As a result, he does not know how his wife has crossed his life in an unexpected way.

Dr. Sanjida said that such a marriage is not desirable. To make a bridal success they need to know each other, understand each other's problems. It just does not perform any social custom or duties.

Men and women form a party through marriage. This family name is the foundation of all social organizations. They will stay with each other for a long time, happily, sadly, and sickly. As joint family tradition is almost extinct, now husband and wife are in touch with each other. So only one beautiful marriage can be overcome through help, cooperation, sympathy and generosity among themselves. The benefits of which the children suffer and a beautiful situation is created in society. In this way, the importance of participating in both the mediapersons, Dr. Sanjida

Dr. Kamrul Hasan, a professor of physics department of Dhaka University. He always publishes a very positive conception through social interaction to help men participate in the home and help the wife. 

Dr. Hassan's wife Donatella Cheseca is an Italian citizen. With his wife and two daughters, he settled in Dhaka. Dr. Hasan said, my father-in-law is 76 years old and mother-in-law is 73. Both of them are busy with some or all of the time, from the morning till night to sleep. Cleaning the house, washing clothes, ironing, marketing, cooking, cleaning of hari-pati wash, looking after the front of the house, taking care of vegetables in the backyard, etc.

He also said that people who work for ordinary people in Italy do not know any word. I have one more sister in my wife. They have two daughters. Keeping their little girl's baby cooked for at least two days a week - by doing this, they have to spend time in the work day. Being busy with such things, both of them are able to lead a healthy life in this age of sickness. However, in our country, we allow people of this age to retire from all jobs.

Dr. Hassan said, I have seen many teachers in my mind mentally retired years before retiring. They do not want to take classes, do not want to stay in the lab, do not want to be in a test committee. After retirement, the house does not seem to work as much.

The chest for cooking in our house, the chest for laundry, the chest to take the children's school, the drivers for driving. Still, many of our complaints - the end of life by working in the wolf. That is why many diseases have become very sad. Dr. According to Hassan, working together in a couple of meetings is not only to help one another. It's a family time strategy. Whereas it is possible to enjoy each other's company and children also get a nice education to be self-dependent.

It is more important than cooperating with each other that it is necessary to be sympathetic. If you work every day with your hand in hand with your wife, you will know what the house does not have, or whether there is a situation that you have to do for your partner today. Since he has a carrier and there may be problems with him, working together will not be difficult for the companion to overcome these difficulties.

Wife's success means but my success - said Dr. Hassan.

Dr. Hassan's support is found. Near Sanjidar. According to him, now the era is not only to show talent in the field. Creating social relationships in this period of extreme competition is as important as being skilled at work. Now if a person comes to the office and spend the rest of the time in the house, then he will not get a rest, and it is impossible for him to make a relationship.

For a successful family system, the emphasis was on the participation of men in the house. Sanjida He said that since childhood, a boy should be used gradually in the house work. Our society does not take the task of men to work just yet. Most of the men suffer from inferiority complex and others also suffer from inferiority. Even many women members of the family keep away from homework.

Dr. According to Sanjida, learning to cook, cooking, cooking is a technique for self-reliance. None of these can be low or elevated. Self-reliance can not be discriminated against by men and women. Every person needs to know these things for his own needs and practice it daily. Only then can it be possible to form a beautiful family.